Wednesday, November 1, 2017

Solutions to Diminish Stress During the First Weeks Postpartum

Being a new mom can be utterly stressful, especially when everyone goes back to work after helping you out the first several days. I experienced very bad stress the first couple of postpartum months. I would have panic attacks (the type where I was minutes away from passing out) while breast feeding because I was not working , my savings was running out, I had no income and my student loans were due again. I was too prideful to ask Chris for any financial help and thought that I would be able to do it on my own.  There was even a time I thought about giving up breast feeding so that I can go back to work earlier (Oh the joys of unpaid maternity leave... I'll get back to this when Im ready to share). Imagine that. Having to choose between feeding your child the healthiest way you can and going back to work. Huge problem in America. I felt horrible to even entertain these thoughts. I was even regretting our decision to have Riley, which caused a whole other level of depression. I felt as if I were being punished for choosing life.
The stress was so bad that I was not able to sleep for a couple of days and ended up falling asleep while feeding Riley. Guess where Riley ended up? He rolled on to the floor. I woke up to a crying baby on the floor. I can't believe Im sharing this, it is something I am still highly embarrassed about. It was something I shared with a selective few that did not judge,  because I was so shocked and felt like the most horrible mother on the planet. Thank goodness Riley was alright and according to his doctor, these things happen all of the time. From that moment on I decided to say "FORGET EVERYTHING my child  and my wellbeing comes first". 
The first thing I did was find solutions to diminish the stress.  Postpartum is a very sensitive time for women. It is important to take care of your mental health and to block out anything that can be mentally affecting you.  You have to put all of your mental focus on your baby, especially during the first few weeks. 

Wednesday, October 25, 2017

Birth Control ... A Nightmare

When I first started pumping, I was pumping about 4oz on each boob once a day. Then I decided to go on birth control about 5 weeks ago. Those who listen to the Uptown Girls podcast three weeks ago, know that I was surprised to find out that the estrogen in birth control can drastically decrease your milk production. With so much reading, I don’t know how I managed to skip such very important information. 
I noticed that Riley was feeding more and longer. At first I thought it was another growth spurt but his cries were hunger cries. When I pumped, It was only 2oz out of both boobs together. I was stressed. I promised myself that I wouldn’t give up on breast feeding. I was determined to get my milk production up. I got off the orthotrycycline-lo  pill right away after reading the effects it had on breastfeeding women. It was a tough decision to make because we are not ready to have more children right now and we also did not want Riley to starve.  At Riley's two month check up I made sure that he was gaining weight and asked his pediatrician about my options. She told me about the mini-pill and also said it's only effective if taken at the exact same time every day. I called my OBGYN and got a prescription. 
For the last three weeks I’ve been drinking leche de avena , chocolate de agua, and Malta con leche condensada. Nothing was changing. My back up milk for when I had to leave Riley for a few hours was finishing. As of yesterday I had a total of 4 oz in the freezer. With podcast duties and a wedding on Saturday I was freaking out. I even told myself if I did not produce enough milk to hold my son down for at least 16hrs, I was not going anywhere. I also haven’t been away from Riley for more than three hours and was looking forward to having some social time. 
I did some research. Massaging my boobs, got oatmeal milk and some 24.99 lactation cookies at Babies R us ( Found them a little cheaper at Target) . Last night I was able to pump double the amount that I’ve been pumping for the last two weeks. The crazy thing is that I only had half a cookie and did not drink the oatmeal milk. One thing I did do yesterday was have Riley on my boobs longer and more than usual . I literally stood in bed cluster feeding for most of the day. I don’t know exactly what helped my milk production last night, but hopefully it increases more before Saturday, so that Riley is fed and mommy & daddy can go out and have a good time. I will be keeping you guys posted! 

Saturday, April 15, 2017

Halfway There .... & Almost No One Knew!

Last week Chris and I announced our pregnancy on social media with a very touching video. Apparently the video even made some grown men cry. Our phones were off the hook with text messages and social media notifications. A lot of people were surprised. Especially people that would see me every week at work and had no idea that I was pregnant. We decided to keep the pregnancy between us, our families and a very small group of friends for almost six months. I never understood why people kept it super private until it was our time to create life. 

Being that this was an unexpected pregnancy and the first one for both, it took a lot for both of us to get used to the thought that from here on out, it was our duty to create a healthy little human. We were now in charge of another life. That's a lot of responsibility. It takes a lot to process this, and while getting used to it and ready for it, we didn't want any bad energy or the opinions of others involved. We also wanted to enjoy this moment. I am a strong believer that when something great is happening in your life, it's best to enjoy it first before you share it with others. Not saying that everyone is mean spirited, but there are a lot of people out there who act as if they are happy for you but secretly aren't and end up ruining the experience for you. Sucks, but its reality. I've learned that the hard way. 

I am grateful to experience this road to motherhood the way I have. I wouldn't have it any other way. I've learned a lot of lessons and have changed as a person tremendously. Just last year I did not imagine myself carrying a child. I had my mind set on adoption or making money so that I can afford a surrogate later on down the road, but The Universe/ God had different plans for me. I accepted those plans with open arms and have never been happier. We are thankful for all the love and positivity received as well. Thank you for  respecting our choice.